Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and you want to become the man of her dreams and avoid the nightmare, do you? Well, are you willing to sacrifice for her? Let’s find out what it takes.
What it Takes
The only way your marriage is going to be all you want it to be is for both husband and wife to be in tune with Jesus Christ.
Getting Jesus first, is the easy part to figure out. How exactly we men play our part in the plan is a bit more difficult to evaluate some times. As I was thinking about the difficulty of trying to hash out how you and I can become the men of our wives’ dreams, 2 thoughts came to mind.
Two Bad Ideas
First, I thought about the Diet Coke commercial, where the women in
the office building all gather at the window to watch the construction worker across the street take a break. Knowing that most of us do not look exactly like the model in the commercial, I thought we had better figure out a way to work with what we have.
The second thought that crossed my mind was that I could get my wife to write this message and have her tell us men how to become the man of our wives dreams. I was afraid of doing that, however, for fear that I wouldn’t be the man she described.
What does the Bible Say?
I finally decided that I had better check the Bible and see what it says about being a great husband. Probably the best passage of Scripture on this is found in the book of Ephesians 5:25-33
In verse 25, Paul says that husbands are to “love your wives as Christ loved the church”. The standard is pretty high isn’t it? But, what does it mean to love your wife as Christ loved the church? What can you do to become the man of your wife’s dreams?
#1 – You need to love your wife with a sacrificial love.
When Jesus came into the world, He loved the church. He loved us enough to leave heaven and all of its comforts, come to earth, take on a human body, be spat on and made fun of, crowned with a crown of thorns, and nailed to a cross. That’s what sacrificial love is, and that’s required if you are going to be the man of your wife’s dreams.
Now, when God said for you and I to love our wives that way, He didn’t say they deserved it. God didn’t say your wife was worthy of that kind of love. And He didn’t say to love her that way if she did something to deserve it or if she did something for you in return. The Lord said, “DO IT!” Sacrificial love is unconditional. If God waited until we deserved His love before He sent His Son, He never would have loved us. But, He did. He loved us like we were. The Bible says that, “God showed His love for us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” When you were at your worst, God still loved you.
An Awesome example
In march of 1990, Robertson McQuilkin, the former president of Columbia Bible College, announced his resignation with the following letter.
“My dear wife, Muriel, has been in failing mental health for about 8 years. So far I have been able to carry both her ever-growing needs and my leadership responsibilities at Columbia Bible College. But recently it has become apparent that Muriel is contented most of the time she is with me and almost none of the time I am away from her. It is not just “discontentment.” She is filled with fear – even terror – that she has lost me and always goes in search for me when I leave home. Then she may be full of anger when she cannot get to me. So it is clear to me that she needs me now, full time. Perhaps it would help you to understand if I shared with you what I shared at the time of the announcement of my resignation in chapel.
The decision was made, in a way, 42 years ago when I promised to care for Muriel “in sickness and in health . . . till death do us part.” So, as I told the students and faculty, as a man of my word, integrity has something to do with it. But so does fairness. She has cared for me fully and sacrificially all these years; if I cared for her the next 40 years I would not be out of debt. Duty, however, can be grim and stoic. But, there is more; I love Muriel. She is a delight to me – her childlike dependence and confidence in me, her warm love, occasional flashes of wit I used to relish so, her happy spirit and tough resilience in the face of her continual distressing frustration. I do not have to care for her, I get to! It is a high honor to care for such a person”.
It’s your Turn
My friend, if you want to be the man of your wife’s dreams, love her like that. Love her sacrificially and unconditionally. In the next few weeks we will learn what this means and look at the five (5) requirements of Sacrificial Love to our wives.
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