How to Be a Father in 4 Easy Steps

How to Be a Father in 4 Easy Steps

As Father’s day approaches, I want to encourage everyone following this website  to be a great father, a faithful husband and a Godly man. This is why Manly Training has an annual tribute to fathers that starts the day after Mother’s Day and runs through Father’s day! For the next 6 weeks you will be reading encouraging stories about fatherhood! It matters not if you are a man or a woman, these stories will touch your life in ways that I am sure will bless you like you had no idea! Please, share them with your friends and family.

With this in mind, how can a man become a father? Well, without getting into much detail, the natural and biological way to become a father is simple. Any healthy male can procreate children, but being a dad is a whole different story! It’s one thing to make babies and whole different “enchilada” to father them. Let’s take a look at what God says about this.

God created man in his image and one of the attributes of God is that of a father.  I continually remind dads that we share one of God’s most precious attributes. That of a father! This is an amazing responsibility and one that we must not take lightly.  So, How do fathers build a firm foundation of character and a positive relationship with their children?

1. Loving Kindness

“… a gentle tongue can break a bone”
(Proverbs 25:15)

In other words dads – there is great strength in gentleness. Do you show the same courtesy towards your kids that you expect from them? Can you praise your kids without adding anything negative – like, “Great job with the dishes tonight – pity your room’s such a mess”? How about your discipline – is it firm AND loving – or just firm? Do you discipline your children in front of others? Do you hug your kids regularly (If you don’t they will find someone who will!!) Are you quick to go to their aid when there’s a genuine need?

Dad’s, your words and acts of loving-kindness today will build confidence in your sons and daughters. They will have the confidence to attempt anything if they know your love, acceptance and gentle protection of them is assured no matter what.

2. Laughter

Dad’s when was the last time you laughed with your children – instead of at them?

There was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother. There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth. “For whom am I toiling,” he asked, “and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment?” This too is meaningless– a miserable business! (Ecclesiastes 4:8)

Dad’s if you’re always work, always discipline, always orders, always serious – then your kids are missing something very important. And you may well be missing the enjoyment of watching your kids grow up – and so you may end up a very lonely man.

Playtime is a big part of being a child and unless you can get into it dad’s, you’re cut right out of a huge part of your child’s life. Play sport with them. Discover which leisure things you like to do together and get into it.

3. Learning

Dad’s it’s no secret that most teachers – at least at Primary school level – are women. And for the most part I’m sure they’re doing a fantastic job. But even our Education Department recognises that more men are needed as teachers in our primary schools. What does this tell us? It tells us that it’s best for children to get a balanced learning input from both mom and dad. (It’s not always possible – but it’s best).

And the single most important lesson a father can teach his child – is why they are alive. Listen to these words from Ephesians 6:4 …..

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).

A father that teaches his child to follow the Lord will save them from living the frustration of a wasted life.

Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6).

Dad, you and your wife can teach your kids how things should would work – – or you can abdicate your responsibility and let your kids learn about life from their friends, the TV/internet and schools (That’s a frightening thought).

4. Listening

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19)

When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise (Proverbs 10:19).

So often dads just want to be dispensers of information. But if that’s all communication is for you dad, then you have some extremely needy children. Especially if you have daughters, but I suspect sons are not much different in this department. Communication is about building a relationship – not just spewing out information.

And dad’s if you won’t listen to your sons or daughters, then they will keep searching until they find someone who will! Wouldn’t you much rather be that person?
It’s a tough job being a dad (or a mom for that matter). But you don’t have to do it on your own …

For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him. (2 Chronicles 16:9a)

If you are his – – then he is yours! Don’t complain that God is absent and not concerned about your life and plight as a Dad if you have never given him the time of day. Dad, if you are his, then he is yours – and he desires to make you the dad he created you to be.

.To the fatherless/husbandless; To the emotionally abandoned; To those dads without a good fatherly example to follow, the Lord is ….A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families
(Psalm 68:5-6)

My Father’s Legacy

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The Warrior in Me (an inspiring story)

How could I have ever known this man who would teach me his love for me was as big and boundless as the sky, would forever have shown me also, how to fight. (The Warrior in Me)

How to stand, when others sit.  How to exceed what is expected, needed or requested.  His own example was right before me, for so many years, and yet I let them nearly slip away.  It’s funny how the mind is, though, storing bits and pieces of memories; shards, it seems, that cut their way through to the surface of our recall, as if to allow us a way through otherwise ‘stuck’ situations.

Strategic, tactical preparing, attention to detail, cleanliness to the level of pristine, even how to iron, fold, and “make a bed like they do in the military,” he’d say; my dad took the time to show me, teach me, pour in-to me.  Perception, endurance, persistent determination, he took the time to show me how and why; how to defend others.  How to work with what is in my hands and make something out of nothing.  I learned the art of the wait; stealth and patience are power twins, and without them one cannot learn endurance or the strength and joy that come from their reward.

My Father

My veteran father, a warrior whose purple heart was received for his wounds in action, and near death in the war in Viet Nam, continues to march for fallen soldiers and prisoners of war, today.  With shrapnel and bullet fragments lodged in his head causing numbness on his face, and an ear and an eye that won’t work right anymore, he marches on through Texas, for those who cannot march anymore.  His strength through the horrors of losing a child, a son 9 days old, to the poison of Agent Orange, is what kept our family together those first years back.  It was as if he never took off his uniform.  It was as if he didn’t know how.  Times where a simple road trip, meant near ‘military-like’ planning and implementing, right down to the packing of the toilet paper… everything was thought out; planned with careful precision and no room for mistakes.

My Father’s watchful eye

When my sister and I thought to sneak out, one hot summer night, little did we realize the back yard was booby trapped with empty bucket pails, and he was sprawled out in his cammies in the dark part of the back yard.  Not until half my body was over the fence, did he stealthily come up from behind and secure us in one flip of the wrist… that’s my daddy!  Yep, and without a sound!  Could he know, here decades later, I would use the very same tactics to catch my own?

Listening to my Father

I watched and listened, pressed in to hear his heart; every sound and syllable as those war stories spilled from his lips.  One could hear the sounds of war; the cries of the injured and dying when he shared how his own wounds came to be, near Long Binh.  “Take Cover,” one screamed, as the explosion changed everything, forever.  The feelings of helpless shock and righteous indignation sweep over me even now, when I take myself to that place, in him.  A wounded place, yet still not whole.  A place where not many are allowed near… but my daddy knows there is healing in my hands.  The healing touch of a daughter who knows how to touch heaven and the hem of His garment; and so, he lets me in.

My father’s stories

His story of how his preacher-father, my grandfather, was interceding for him as he lay in a hospital in Japan; near dead, and dying more than once.  He saw how the battle of good and not-so-good petitioned for him, to yield to an early, premature death.  I learned how to fight death through prayer, because of my daddy!  I learned how to win.

Years later, when standing at doors of death for myself and others, I would remember his stand.  I would recall his words and the look on his face; I would remember what swept over me, as I listened to his words on defeating Defeat; it fully supplied me, loaded me and positioned me to not take ‘no’ for an answer, when God had already said ‘yes’.  It was the thrust I needed, when all hope was gone; his words.  The words of my father, who not knowing was fully equipping me for life as a minister of Prophetic Spiritual Warfare in the battle for souls.

My Father the Warrior

My father, a warrior, could not have realized the foundation he was laying in my life, would cause me to succeed in realms beyond the physical senses.  Whose own father, could not have fully foreseen the power of invisible prayer to change the visible world; seeds.  How far down the roots go, when the soil is just right;

“death? It’s just a shadow in a valley… you’ll come through!” he said…

I am my father’s child!

In honor of my father, Antonio L. Santos
U.S. Army, Retired

Sandra Cerda
Sandra Cerda

Sandra Cerda is an Ordained Minister, through the laying on of hands by the late John Osteen, Lakewood Church, in Houston, Tx.  She has overcome multiple Sexual Assaults as a child, teen and young adult, severe Drug and Alcohol Addiction, murderous Domestic Violence, black magic Witchcraft, Major Depression, Suicide and more, surviving a medical death sentence which gave her only months to live… 28 years ago!

Sandra Cerda is an Ordained Minister, through the laying on of hands by the late John Osteen, Lakewood Church, in Houston, Tx.  She has overcome multiple Sexual Assaults as a child, teen and young adult, severe Drug and Alcohol Addiction, murderous Domestic Violence, black magic Witchcraft, Major Depression, Suicide and more, surviving a medical death sentence which gave her only months to live… 28 years ago!

Near death

With infection covering nearly 100% of her body, she often found herself stuck to sheets and pillowcases. After 30 months and 10 doctors, she found herself sitting
at the back of a church that believed in Miracles! She was a practicing black-magic witch and suicidal-drug addict, when God heard her prayer! She is completely healed and whole today, moving in the Five-Fold Ministry Gifts with a very strong Prophetic Gift, gifted in Deliverance. The miracle, healing power of God, through Prophetic Spiritual Warfare, works through her life, touching and liberating people everywhere she ministers.  Former Spokes/Fashion and Commercial Print Model, Published Author, Sandra Cerda’s story has been broadcast over the years, through Daystar, TBN, 700 Club and Heart to Heart interviewers Joni Lamb, Spiritual Mother Dodie Osteen and Sheila Walsh with special reference highlighted in Mrs. Walsh’s book, Life is Tough but God is Faithful (available at amazon.com).

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