San Antonio Police Helicopter and its pilot, a man of steel.

Men of Velvet and of Steel (part 1)

Men of Velvet and of Steel

We have a crisis in our homes because we have failed. Where are the men of steel? Where are the men that will stand firm? If things are going well in our business, who gets the credit? If you go into bankruptcy, whose head rolls? When things are going well, everyone gets the credit, but when things are not going well, the coach’s head rolls. The one to blame for the home going bad is the man, not the woman. Today, men are allowing women to have the authority that was given to them.

1,000,000 men walk out on their home each year, and many of them never say good-bye. Because of that, there are over One million children in single family homes.

Men, we have a call to father the fatherless. The family is important, because weak homes build weak churches, and weak businesses, and weak nations.

Men, I hope you are paying attention to me today. I want to share with you 7 characteristics of what makes men of steel. Stay tuned for the follow up of this article when I will continue with what makes men of velvet.

Here are some characteristics of Men of Steel.

1. A Man of Steel is committed.

First, they are committed to God, then to 3 specific things after God.

1. They are committed to providing for the family. And this is not just physical things. It is emotional things as well. It is being the leader in spiritual things in the home.

2. They are committed to protection. Men are the umbrella of the home.

3. They are committed to pointing God’s Way. It should be the fathers who lead their sons and daughters to Christ.

2. A Man of Steel should be a man of conviction.

A man of steel studies what he believes and can tell the family why he hold the beliefs that he does.

3. A Man of Steal is a man of courage.

Too many sons see weak fathers. Are you a man who stands for right even if it means you will not get ahead? Be fearless. What I have seen is that men don’t like to make decisions because they are afraid of failure. Remember, we can fail with Jesus. Yet, how many times in the home do we hear children ask if they can do so and so, and the response is, let me think about it when we know the answer should be no. What we are doing is teaching our children to make their own decisions because we won’t. “Let our yes be yes, and our no be no.”

4. A man of steel is a man of character.

Masculine character. We need men to be men and women to be women. To talk like a man, to act like a man, to be a man. A man of moral purity, for what you do in moderation, your kids will do in excess.

5. A man of steel is constructive.

He is always building up, not tearing down. There is a way to be critical by building up. To pull our kids close and say we appreciate them. How do you come home at night? All day you have been Mr. Personality, then you walk into the house and kick the dog, or the wife, pick up the newspaper after walking by the wife and kids, and bury yourself in the newspaper? We need to be constructive. A constructive man knows his wife. Some men never take 5 minutes to read a book to learn about their wife, it is no wonder marriages are falling apart. God has given us dominion and leadership, and we need to take it an run with it. Proverbs says, “Train up a child in the way he should go.” We need to know the gifts and talents God has placed in our children so they go right.

6. A Man of Steal is a man of Confidence.

Self-esteem, a sense of belonging, confidence. We need confidence in God; you need to know this about yourself, You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Confidence in family, to trust the wife and kids, to be proud of them.

7. Finally a man of steel needs to be controlled.

Submitted to God, in obedience to God. You need to be thinking and doing what God wants you to think and do.

Are you a Father and a husband? Are you a man of steal as outlined in these 7 points? Could you make some changes in your life? If you think you could, pray to God that He would make you the man that He created you to be.


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Lesson learned. Chores.

The Lesson I Learned from Dad

A Crucial Lesson Learned In My Youth, From My Father

As with so many things in our lives, we never fully appreciate what we have until it’s not around anymore. Lesson learned! Like most kids, when I left home to attend college, I didn’t imagine missing anything about life at home. After all, how could I miss my dad’s never ending chores, curfew, and rules, when I would finally have independence? It only took about two weeks before I realized how well my parents, and especially my dad had prepared me for life.

Chores Were The Foundation For His Lessons, lesson learned!

Growing up my siblings and I were expected to do chores every Saturday morning. While our friends were sleeping in and then enjoying the rest of their weekend boating on the river, we were up at 7:30AM doing chores around the house. This included everything from the typical chores that most kids know how to do, like housework and yard work, to the odd jobs like fixing sprinklers, digging trenches, stacking hay, even roofing our house. If there was ever something that we didn’t know how to do, my dad would expect my siblings and I to work together to figure out a solution. At the time I resented having to spend the majority of my Saturday doing chores that most people would just pay to have done. My attitude changed when I began living on my own.

While my friends would fold under the pressure and stresses of school, I would stay in on weekends and study, continually working hard toward my goals. While one of my roommates was a complete slob that never cleaned up after himself, I was always very tidy and left things better than I found them. Where some of my friends would complain about having to work on group projects, I would always thrive because I spent my whole life problem solving with my siblings. While my peers were struggling to find confidence I was always sure of myself because I spent my whole life learning new skills that helped boost my self-esteem.

My Dad’s Lessons Were Invaluable, lesson learned!

I will forever be grateful to my dad for taking the time and energy to make me work hard throughout my life. I’m sure it would have been easier to just hire someone to do work around the house, but instead he was out there every weekend with us, teaching us skills and lessons that would help us stand apart later in life. Good work ethic is getting harder and harder to come by these days. I’m so fortunate that my dad cared enough about me to make me work throughout my life.

Tyler Jacobson is a husband, father, freelance writer with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today. Follow Tyler on: Twitter | LinkedIn

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