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The Man of Her Dreams (pt 4)
We have learned that Sacrificial love requires affection, it requires communication, and today we will meditate on the fact that it requires Honesty & openness.
– Proverbs 12:19 – Truthful lips will be established forever, But a lying tongue is only for a moment.If there is ever a place in this world where there should be honesty and openness, it is in the home, in the marriage. Men, you need to be honest and open with your wives.
Jesus told the disciples He was leaving. He told them what He would be doing while He was gone. And He told them that He would be back. Gentlemen, you need to do the same with your wives. Let them know where you are going. Let them know what you are doing and where you can be reached. Don’t leave them wondering and worrying. Truthful lips will be established forever.
Don’t be sneaking around, going places and doing things your wife wouldn’t approve of. Don’t leave them wondering where you are and what you’re doing. Be open and honest with them about your struggles, about your finances. Keep everything above the table.
Most of us want an honest relationship with our spouse. But most women have a need for honesty and openness — it gives them a sense of security and helps them become emotionally bonded to the one who meets that need.
Those women with a need for honesty and openness want accurate information about their husbands’ thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities and plans for the future. If their husband does not provide honest and open communication, trust is undermined and the feelings of security can eventually be destroyed. They cannot trust the signals that are being sent and feel they have no foundation on which to build a solid relationship. Instead of adjusting, they feel off balance; instead of growing together, they feel as if they are growing apart.
Honesty and openness helps build compatibility in marriage. When you and your wife openly reveal the facts of your past, your present activities, and your plans for the future, you are able to make intelligent decisions that take each other’s feelings into account. And that’s how you create compatibility — by making decisions that work well for both of you simultaneously.
But aside from the practical considerations of honesty and openness, those women with this need feel happy and fulfilled when their husband reveal their most private thoughts to them, and feel very frustrated when they are hidden. That reaction is evidence of an emotional need, and if that is the way your wife feels, include honesty and openness as one of her most important emotional needs.
Sacrificial love requires honesty and openness, and if you are to be the man of your wife’s dreams, she must have it as well. Next week we discuss the fact that sacrificial love includes financial support.
This is part 4 of this series. I have received numerous emails and tweets about this series, so I pray it will continue to bless you. If you missed the first three parts, here are the links so you can catch up.
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