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​Teaching Young Adults To Have Perspective & Keep Priorities In Order

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It’s easy for young adults and teens to lose sight of what really matters in life. They have to constantly deal with pressure and expectations from their peers, friends, parents, and society.

As responsible parents, we should take care to teach our teens to keep their priorities straight if they are to be prepared for the real world. While high school life does have its moments, it’s not all there is to life. Part of our responsibility as parents, in keeping with God’s word, is to guide our children and one of the ways we get to do that is to teach them to have perspective and get their lives in order.

Here’s how to go about it:

Teach them to set aside time to reflect.

I believe the first step in learning how to prioritize is taking time to pause and reflect. Teens especially need this, given that they live in a fast-paced world that is full of distractions with a million things clamoring for their attention.

Like the scripture says- Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you. When your teen spends time reflecting on their lives and seeking God, they will more easily figure out which direction to take to realize the Lord’s purpose for their lives.

Help them figure out what’s important.

Another key step is for young adults to get crystal clear on what they feel is important in their lives and what they want to achieve. Whether it’s financial success, academic excellence, volunteering or spreading the word, they need to have clear goals to focus their time and energy on.

They need to take action in small steps.

While coming up with goals is a good thing, teens also need to figure out what steps to take to achieve them. Remember success replicates success, so ensure they keep to small, measurable steps that can be easily achieved.

For instance, if your child wants to make the track team, a small achievable step towards this would be waking up at 5 a.m. to run 5 miles, 4 days a week. This will keep them motivated to continue working on their goals and eventually accomplish all of them.

Introduce them to a mentor.

If you find your teen having trouble realizing their goals or struggling to get their priorities in order, consider linking them up with a mentor. Mentors can be a fantastic source of motivation and wisdom for young adults, giving them someone to look up to and confide in especially if they don’t want to talk to their parents. The mentor could be a pastor, teacher, counselor, etc. who wouldn’t mind taking your child under their wing.

Remind them that it’s ok to change priorities as they grow.

Nothing in life is constant so your teen should feel free to adjust their priorities as they grow older. This will not only allow them to check their progress and discard what no longer serves them but also ensure that they are always aligning their lives to God’s purpose.

Life can be difficult for young adults as they struggle to find balance. Teaching them to prioritize will go a long way towards helping them lead fulfilling lives.


How To Help Teens Remember Their Worth

As the father of a 16-year-old daughter, I’ve had some time to accumulate both parenting wins and parenting fails. I’m nowhere near perfect obviously but have given it my all. Something I have always strived for in my role as “Father” is to teach my children about their true worth. Now that I have a teenage daughter, this seems more important than ever.

In a recent survey, 95% of teens reported to having felt inferior at some point in their lives. Many reasons why were also given but the top three of those listed were:

  • Appearance (59%)
  • Ability in some activity (49%)
  • Intelligence (38%)

In the same survey, almost half of the teens questioned reported they normally have “low” self-esteem.

As parents, we would do anything for our kids. Our hearts shatter when they experience difficulty and pain, especially when they feel lesser when compared to their peers. We see the whole world in them and want our children to see it in themselves too. To help them overcome these feelings, I have found there are two important areas to focus on with my teenage daughter.

Help Teens Make Time for Mental Health Exercises

In today’s world, many people are so focused on physical health and intelligence. Some even obsess over these areas, shutting out any kind of uplifting mindfulness. Our kids need resources that help them to be optimally healthy when it comes to their emotional well being. They simply are not taught in school what it takes to have great mental health.

As parents, we need to step in and supply them with some resources. Here’s a few ideas to get you started:

  • Daily meditation/prayer/quiet time to connect their soul and mind, allowing teens to completely unplug.
  • Journaling thoughts and gratitude can help focus minds on living in the moment, instead of living through other people’s curated moments on social media.
  • Worksheets and exercises that guide the teen into thinking about self-identity and improve self-worth.

Remind Teens That No One is Better Than Anyone Else

We consciously make an effort to teach our children that no one is better than them as a human, and on the flip side, they are better than no one else.

In our family, each member knows that they are enough. They are worthy of love and acceptance from the people around every day, simply because they exist. Each of us is unique and has different gifts to offer the world we live in. The world is so quick to persuade individuals of who they are not that we often forget how special we are.

By simply taking deliberate time to have these conversations and taking advantage of teachable moments, our kids will not only feel our love and concern for their well being but also truly come to know a sense of self-worth in this crazy world.


Why Train Teenagers?

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Why Train Teenagers? ejq3 is a website I launched with the sole purpose of reaching our young people for Christ and then training them. After all, we are called to make disciples.  For the past two and a half years, I have been working on “manlytraining.com” and reaching men (and some women) to train (or disciple) them in God’s ways. I reasoned that if we could reach the men, we could reach the whole family. And if we could reach the families of America, we could make a difference in our nation. For as the family goes, so goes our Nation!

0177BE51-A076-44D1-8824-F2EA8723D4EESo far, Manly Training Ministries has done well. We have a large online following made up mostly adults from 30 to 60 years of age. We have a weekly group of men we call “The Men of Destiny”. These men get together every week to encourage each other and study God’s word so that we can grow as men and become the men God created us to be.

As a part of the strategy that God has given us here at Manly training Ministries, we are now launching out to the younger generations. After all, they are our future. But WHY would we take on a ministry that aims to train or disciple teenagers? Well, let me tell you why:

We want to disciple the younger generations because:

1. God has a track record of choosing teens to accomplish great spiritual feats.

2. God receives glory when the “foolish things of the world” confound the wise.

3. It just makes sense.

I will explain each one of these three reasons in seperate posts. Let’s make a difference

A godly man
A godly man

together as we train our teenagers and young adults to become the men and women God designed them to be.

Jesus The Teenage Rebel – part 1


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