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3 Things Men Need


Men need vision.

The Bible says, in Proverbs 29:18 – When there is no vision the people perish.

Jesus had a vision. He called it the kingdom of God. It was huge. It involved nothing less than a re-creation of the world, one person at a time. And we are His partners in this task. This vision was the focus of His entire life. Everything about His life was tied up in this vision. It was the reason He lived and died.

Unfortunately for the modern church, men don’t have a vision of what God is doing in His church. Church then becomes a club instead of a cause where we try to improve ourselves morally or keep ourselves busy. We must see the significance of the tasks we are given to do. The state of this country and this world depends upon the smallest prayer that we say! So I believe it is time for men

Men need purpose.

Most guys don’t know what the purpose of the church is. That’s because most churches have not agreed on what their specific purpose is. What is our mission statement? Neh. 4:6 For the people had a mind to work”. A study of Shell Oil employees shows that people who retire at age 55 and live to be at least 65 die sooner than people who retire at 65. After age 65, the early retirees have a 37% higher risk of death than counterparts that retired at 65.
That’s not all. People who retire at 55 are 89% more likely to die in the 10 years after retirement than those who retire at 65. This study shows what happens to men (and women) when they no longer have a purpose they are working towards. If you want to be a Real Man, you will have PURPOSE.

Men need high standards.

Many people think the church asks too much of its members. In reality it asks too little. A study by Thom Rainer of two thousand churches showed that without exception the churches that attracted unchurched people were high expectation churches. He said, “People have no desire to be part of something that makes no difference, that expects little.”

We have to ask confidently for a big commitment. Jesus always asked for a commitment clearly and confidently. He was not at all reluctant to ask men and women to drop everything and follow him. People do not resent being asked for a big commitment if there is a great purpose behind it.

“Most often, we draw back from challenging men to greater commitment, assuming they are just lazy! We then wonder why men have so little respect for the church—even as we presume so little respect for them.” Matt. 16:24-25 – Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. 25 For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. If you want to be a Real Man, you will have high standards.

The Calling

Today I am calling every man of God that reads this blog to be the man and the leader that God wants you to be. I am setting the standard high today, even for myself. God wants us to excel spiritually in every area of life. God wants you and me to be the best husband, the best son, the father, the best teacher. Eph. 5-6

Are you in? Will you show yourself a man?

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Do you Know How to Talk to Women?


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Last week I explained that sacrificial love means taking the time to show your wife affection. However, sacrificial love also means loving your wife enough to talk with her. Do you know how to talk to women?

Women Need Conversation

Let’s talk about CONVERSATION – In a recent study done by a leading woman’s magazine, women said that their number 1 complaint about their husbands was that they didn’t talk to them enough.

Men, talk to your wives. Talk to your wife about her day, and about what interests her, and about how she feels. Talk to her. And women, you know that we men are sometimes a little weak in this area, so help us out. Let me share 3 steps you can take to help your husband talk to you more.

a. Show some interest in his interests.
b. Let your husband talk as much as you do.
c. Make conversations with your husband pleasant. You can and must discuss some unpleasant things from time to time, but don’t major on them. Don’t spend all your time talking about how your husband has let you down. Make your conversations as pleasant as possible.

Women and Sex

Unlike the need for sex, conversation is not an emotional need that can or should be met exclusively in marriage. Your wife’s need for conversation can ethically be met by almost anyone. But if it is one of her most important emotional needs, whoever meets it best will deposit so many love units, she may fall in love with that person. So if it’s her need, it’s crucial to your marital happiness that you are the one who meets it the best and most often.

The need for conversation is not met by simply talking to someone. It is met when the conversation is enjoyable for both persons involved. Good conversation is characterized by the following:

  1. using it to inform and investigate each other,
  2. focusing attention on topics of mutual interest,
  3. balancing the conversation so both have an equal opportunity to talk, and
  4. giving each other undivided attention while talking to each other.

Error Talk

Conversation fails to meet this need when

(1) demands are made,

(2) disrespect is shown,

(3) one or both become angry, or

(4) when it is used to dwell on mistakes of the past or present.

Unless conversation is mutually enjoyable, a couple is better off not talking to each other at all. An unpleasant conversation not only fails to meet the emotional need, but it also makes it less likely that there will be an opportunity to meet the need in the future. That’s because we tend to prevent our spouse from meeting our needs if earlier attempts were painful to us.

Dating Talk

Men and women don’t have too much difficulty talking to each other during courtship. That’s a time of information-gathering for both partners. Both are highly motivated to discover each other’s likes and dislikes, personal background, current interests and plans for the future. But after marriage, many women find that the man who would spend hours talking to her on the telephone, now seems to have lost all interest in talking to her, and spends his spare time watching television or reading.

If your wife’s need for conversation was fulfilled during courtship, she also expects it to be met after marriage. And if she fell in love because you met her need for conversation during courtship, she risks falling out of love if that need is not met during marriage.

Does she have a craving just to talk to someone? Does she pick up the telephone just because she feels like talking? If she sees conversation as a practical necessity, primarily as a means to an end, she probably doesn’t have much of a need for it. But if she uses conversation “just to talk,” and enjoy conversation in its own right, and is frustrated when she hasn’t been able to talk to someone for a while, consider it to be one of her most important emotional needs.

Men, sacrificial love requires affection, it requires conversation, and it requires Honesty & openness. Next week we will dive into understanding how Honesty and openness can transform your relationship with your wife.

This is part 3 of this series. I have received numerous emails and tweets about this series, so I pray it will continue to bless you. If you missed the first two parts, here are the links so you can catch up.

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The Art Of Losing: Teaching Your Kid To Be A Great Loser


The Art of Losing!

Teaching your Kid the Art of Losing seems like a dumb thing to do. Who wants to be a loser? But you’ll thank me in the end!

There are numerous lessons we parents need to teach our children before they fly the nest. One of the most important ones is how to be good losers.

Winning is easy since victory tastes nice and you get a huge ego boost to boot. But losing – well, that doesn’t go down too well. It leaves a bad taste in the mouth and it’s hard to stomach. If you have a strong-willed child, losing isn’t something they’ll take gracefully. There will be tantrums, fits of rage and angry words.

Teaching them to be a loser!

However, while we need to nurture our kids’ competitive spirits, it’s equally important to teach them how to accept losing with grace and dignity. After all, competition is a fact of life. Today they might lose a soccer or baseball match and tomorrow they might suffer the rejection of a job denied or unrequited love. As such, it is important to know how to handle themselves in these situations.

Here are some tips that might help you next time your child doesn’t come up with a win:

Tips on losing:

  • Take a look in the mirror. You can’t teach your kid to be a good sport about losing if you’re not one yourself. How do you react if your child gets a minor role in the school play or comes last in a relay race? What about your reaction when your favorite football team fails to score that all-important touchdown? Remember your kids are always watching and their reaction to losing will be a reflection of how you behave in such situations.
  • Address the importance of losing. Talking to your child about why he can’t win or be good at everything helps him accept it as part of life. If they see that even great people were once losers before making it in life, he’ll be encouraged not to take losses personally and to keep trying.
  • Focus on effort, skill and fun. Teach your child to only focus on winning and they’ll be disappointed many times in life. Instead, direct their focus to improving a certain skill set in the activities they participate in and discovering where their passions lie. Above all, stress the importance of getting out there, giving it their all and having as much fun as possible.
  • Don’t give them sympathy wins. I get it – it’s hard to watch your kids lose and fail. Even so, letting them win out of sympathy will only do them more harm than good. It will give them a false sense of achievement and false confidence in their abilities. There are incredible lessons to be learned through failure and these will help your child be the best they can be.
  • Encourage them to be thankful. Lastly, build up thankfulness in your kid by reminding them that all good gifts are lavished on us by God. He deserves all praise and gratitude for giving us the talents and abilities that enable us to compete. With humility and gratitude in their hearts, your children will find it easier to be gracious winners or losers.

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My Resolutions for 2018


A New Year

Today is December 29th. In two more days we will be bringing 2017 to an end! As we ponder on the past year and wonder in excitement about 2018, many of us will make one or more New Year Resolutions. This means we all make promises to ourselves that usually get
shattered by March. And even though we break our resolutions year after year, we will still promise ourselves to eat healthier, exercise and work hard.

I have been thinking about my own resolutions for this year and since so much of my life revolves around my three boys, it would make sense to make resolutions for the new year based on them. I want to share them today because I feel it may bless other dads who may have the same challenges I do.

Resolutions for 2018

So, I resolve to: Get my my kids to sleep in their own beds this year. Currently, my family approaches bedtime like a roving band of narcoleptic gypsies. Despite having officially-assigned beds, the boys often wake up in each other’s beds, my bed, on family room furniture, on the giant teddy bear in the corner of the room or on the floor… but never outside … at least not yet!

The good news is we all still like each other and this sleep shuffle doesn’t seem to affect my kids. But it affects me, as I frequently wake up at 3 a.m. with one leg on the floor, because I’m subconsciously trying not to be shoved out of bed by a recently-arrived occupant. This needs to stop, because they’re all getting too big, and Dad is getting too old to have his body twisted around like this without him knowing.

Outside Resolutions for 2018

I also resolve to: Get my kids outside more. I think I resolved to do this last year. If so, I don’t think it worked very well, or I wouldn’t be resolving to do it again. My oldest son who will be 9 in 11 days has played soccer at the YMCA for four years now, but only in the Spring and the Fall due to the fact that the Summer heat is unbearable in San Antonio TEXAS and there are too many things going on in the winter. Now, my 5-year-old did play soccer, and learned how to dramatically throw himself on the floor when another boy tries to take the ball from him. It’s funny to watch, but I’ll be missing that now since soccer really isn’t his thing. I am grateful for the 2016 Summer Olympics because no my 5 year old is taking Gymnastics. You should see him pull himself up on the rings!

Nevertheless, I’d like to target a certain hike or camping trip. I’m not talking the coast trail to Alaska or anything, but one of my kids has been harping about wanting to go camping. My boys are going to get some exercise, if for no other reason than to make me feel like I’m a functional parent.

Future Resolutions for 2018

I also resolve to: Start my kids’ college funds. Because I finally realize that day isn’t decades in the future and I don’t want them to someday owe $217 million in college loans.

I also resolve to: remodel the house this year so that Mom, Dad, Three energetic Boys and two crazy dogs can live together in harmony in an 1850 square foot home.

These are the silly (or not so silly) resolutions I have planned for 2016. But there are some very serious ones I want to also share with you today. I started Manly Training in September of 2015 and already I have seen and heard of many men who have started their journey towards becoming the man that God created them to be.

Some Serious Resolutions for 2018

I fully resolve to do everything I can to make Manly Training a tool that will make a difference in our world today. Manly Training needs to become a movement that will help men across America and the world become Godly men, Loving husbands and Fathers that will be there for their families. I dream of a day that fatherless homes are eradicated in our great land. A day when those 24 million children that go to bed in a home without a father today would be able to say; “Good night daddy”!

Furthermore, I do solemnly resolve before God to take full responsibility for myself, my wife, and my children.

I Will do the following:

•I WILL love them, protect them, serve them, and teach them the Word of God as the spiritual leader of my home.

I WILL be faithful to my wife, to love and honor her, and be wiling to lay down my life for her as Jesus Christ did for me.

•I WILL bless my children and teach them to love God with all of their hearts, all of their minds, and all of their strength.

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•I WILL confront evil, pursue justice, and love mercy.

•I WILL pray for others and treat them with kindness, respect, and compassion.

•I WILL work diligently to provide for the needs of my family.

•I WILL forgive those who have wronged me and reconcile with those I have wronged.

•I WILL learn from my mistakes, repent of my sins, and walk with integrity as a man answerable to God.

•I WILL seek to honor God, be faithful to His church, obey His Word, and do His will.

•I WILL courageously work with the strength God provides to fulfill this resolution for the rest of my life and for His glory.

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. – Joshua 24:15

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Enabling Practices: Stop Letting Your Kids Just “Get It Out Of Their System” Early


Enabling Practices: Stop Letting Your Kids Just “Get It Out Of Their System” Early. I believe that as fathers, we always want what’s best for our children. We strive to provide and protect our children to the best of our abilities. While we may make some mistakes along the way, our hearts are usually in the right place.

Maybe that’s why most of us struggle with setting boundaries for our children. We hate the idea of upsetting our kids because we love them, and we don’t want them to get angry at us. We somehow mistakenly believe that this will hurt their esteem or damage our relationship with them.

Parenting Traps To Avoid

So we start to let things slide. We become way too permissive, and we even start enabling bad behavior. These phrases start creeping into our conversations:

“They’re just kids, it’ll be okay.”

“Kids will be kids.”

“I’m just letting them get it out of their system.”

It all seems logically sound — allow your children to have their way and get a certain behavior out of their system. We think that if they’re allowed to eat, drink or indulge to their heart’s content, act out as often as they wish or even drink and party as hard as they want, they’ll eventually get tired of this behavior when they’re older and stop of their own accord.

Why This Parenting Concept Is Flawed

I’ll outline why this parenting method sadly falls short:

  1. In Philippians 4:8, we are instructed to dwell on whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable and worthy of praise. By allowing kids to “just get it out of their system” we’re encouraging them to do the opposite of what God wants. Instead of having our children practice good behavior, we’re enabling inappropriate conduct. Then we get surprised when they end up being undisciplined, entitled and disrespectful.
  2. Children thrive where there are rules and discipline. Sometimes, we parents forget that rules, limits, and boundaries are actually healthy for children. Parental boundaries help children feel safe and cared for while setting limits helps them know what behavior is expected of them. Limits also teach kids how to socialize with others and how to cope with uncomfortable feelings. If you allow your children to always get away with bad behavior, they’ll never develop the self-discipline, restraint, and self-control necessary to navigate the real world.
  3. It undermines the parent-child relationship. Our children trust us to keep them safe. Letting them run wild sends a subtle message that we really don’t care about their well-being. Over time, they’ll stop trusting us to keep them healthy and safe. We, therefore, shouldn’t be surprised when they start acting out as a way of seeking proof that we care about them.

In Proverbs 22:6, we are reminded to train up our children in the way they should go and they’ll not depart from it even when they’re old. We parents have a duty to not only nurture our children but to also teach them how to make good choices in their lives. This is what being a good father entails and it’s what we should all strive towards.


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Be a REAL MAN: A Beginner’s Guide


A Real Man

What makes a REAL MAN? Is it the way he dresses? Is it the way he smells or how strong he is? Or perhaps it is the size of his wallet or the kind of car or truck he drives. Whatever your idea of manliness is, Eduardo is about to turn it upside down in this thought provoking podcast. Listen at your own risk!

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You Need God and He Needs You Too


Do you need God? Did you know that God made you and that He needs you? He has a plan for your life and that’s why He created you. Will you fulfill God’s plan for your life?

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