I grew up in the 60’s and it was a great time to grow up. We played outside endlessly. My father worked afternoons and with school all day I didn’t see him a whole lot. There were six of us kids and my mom worked tirelessly to take care of us and always gave us (more…)
Being a dad is awesome! But if you approach it as one more thing on your to do list, I can guarantee that it will not be very fun for you. Your job as a father is to nurture your children and to help them reach their fullest potential. Find out how. (more…)
Being a dad is awesome! But if you approach it as one more thing on your to do list, I can guarantee that it will not be very fun for you. There are so many benefits to being a dad.
Things that you and your child can look forward to on a daily basis. Learn to be a good dad by understanding how our father in heaven is a good dad to us. Then, your eagerness to be a good dad will fill your child with everything he needs. When you and your child know that you care about each other and love each other the way God designed it, your lives will be filled with unspeakable joy!
Your children will grow up and they will start to pull away from you. When that happens they will begin to be shaped by their friends and the culture around them. As they grow up and start slipping away from you, you will worry over there well-being. We can’t stop them, but we can definitely teach them to make the right choices. We can lay a foundation for them by teaching them God’s word and then making sure they feel loved so they don’t reach out for recognition in ways that can harm them. And when they come to those situations in life when they don’t know what to do, we will know for sure that they will feel confident in the fact that we have created a relationship that is open and inviting. In this way they will know to seek refuge and council with you and in the same way with their Heavenly Father.
There’s really nothing you can do about your own childhood. There’s no way to go back and undo what’s been done and there’s no way to take back what has been said or to live those things you didn’t live. Hollywood makes tons of money making movies that exploit this sentiment. But it’s fantasy, and the reality is that it cannot be done. Nevertheless, you are very fortunate! You can make sure that your children have the father that they deserves to have. You have been given a chance to do it differently. This time with your own children and you need to do it better, you need to do it right! So I challenge you to make a list of things that you want to do more with them. And then, start doing it.
Human tendency is to repeat the things that we have seen our own fathers do or say and to put our expectations over those things. I urge you not to repeat this mistake that your own father made. By being a better father to your child or children, you are also being blessed. A blessing that will heal the disappointments of your own childhood. As your life becomes more gratifying, as you become filled with love, you will find that a lifetime of resentment towards your own father will begin to appear less significant. You won’t need to be angry any longer because your life will feel fulfilled.
Stop wasting time and by all means stop blaming yourself for what you have or have not done with your children up until now. If you have not built a close relationship with your children, you will probably feel distant and helpless. The good news is that it is not too late to do it right. Your job as a father is to nurture your children and to help them reach their fullest potential. And in exchange, you will be presented with the opportunity to be a better person. Take advantage of that!
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UNITY. The only way to achieve “Heaven on Earth”. This manly trait is essential if we are to live a complete Christian lifestyle! Listen to this 10 minute podcast. Together – Biblical Unity at It’s Best will bless you.
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“I’d like to think that I’ll be a better father, that I have learned from Dad’s mistakes. On most days I can buy that. But there are times when I look in the mirror and see who I’ve become, and think of who he’s always been, and I’m not so sure. You can’t pick up a newspaper without reading of the nightmare that is child abuse, or how alcohol is ripping families apart. I see these articles and feel a little foolish for my anger. My father was neither abusive nor alcoholic. He was simply absent.
Dad always did love me. He still does – or so he says on the rare occasions when we catch one another on the phone. He had his priorities when I was young, and now I have mine. I’m in jail, and my primary concern is my trial. I’m sure he understands. I always did.
I don’t remember much of him in the early days except that he was my hero. I recall stories I sued to tell the other kids about an important and powerful man. He used to fly in on a moment’s notice. I’d see him for a few precious hours. Then he was gone.
Such is the innocence of youth that when he called, always a few weeks after Christmas or my birthday, and told me that the package I had never received must have gotten lost in the mail, I believed him wholeheartedly. Until I was 13 or 14 years old, I was afraid to mail a letter for fear that the same fate would befall it.
The road from realization to acceptance is a lot longer than it looks. I’ve been on it for the past 5 years, and I’m not all that far from where I started. My father and I have a hard journey ahead of us, provided we can find the time. There is sorrow in his voice when we discuss the past, and I know that if he had it to do over, he’d do his best to do it right. Second chances are few, and it’s much easier to do it right the first time.
My dad loved me as only a father can love a son. I don’t question that. But he was also self-centered and let me down when I needed him most. A part of me will always be that kid at the window waiting and waiting with his nose pressed against the glass; knowing that if Dad said he was coming, he was coming; but waking up curled beneath the window, alone.
I love my father, but looking in the mirror sometimes I get a little scared. We are just so much alike. Father’s Day is just a few months away. There are a lot of kids thinking about their hero’s and a lot of hero’s thinking about their kids. Probably there are many kids who don’’ see too much of Dad. If I’’ lucky, a handful of those fathers are reading this. Your kids will love you whether you make it or not; that is the nature of being a hero. But maybe you should take time to consider how important whatever else you have planned is. We do grow up fast. Just ask my dad, or better yet, ask yours.”
Signed – Travis Simpkins, age 20, Fulton County Jail, Atlanta.
And so we see the end result of another failed father. The sad tale of another man who refused to follow God’s plan for the family, the fruit that came to another man who never knew heaven in the home.
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On Patreon you can pledge as little as $1 a month, and in return you’ll get some pretty cool rewards, ranging from your name and blog on my MTM VIP page, exclusive content, and PODCAST VERSIONS of my posts! You can support Manly Training Ministries with as much as you want, I won’t stop you. But I will pray for you and with great gratitude, we will receive it and put all of it (100%) to work for the ministry.
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