5 Things your Wife Wants you to Know, but won’t tell you.

1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Most men just don’t understand what makes a woman tick. With that in mind, Here are five things your wife would like you to know but for a variety of possible reasons, she won’t tell you.

A Family Commitment

 

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The Man of Her Dreams (pt 7)

Becoming the Man of her dreams includes a commitment to the family. God’s word tells us: – Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.

– Ephesians 6:4 And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Loving your wife sacrificially, becoming the man of her dreams, requires a family commitment. In both of these verses men, parents are commanded to rear, to train and teach their children. Men, your wives need you to be good fathers. Child rearing is

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HONOR HER!

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The Man of Her Dreams (pt 6) – Honor Her!

If you are to be the man of your wife’s dreams, you must have sacrificial love. If you are going to be the man of your wife’s dreams, you must also have sanctifying love and you MUST, above all, Honor her.

– Ephesians 5:26 – that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,

Now the word translated here as “Sanctify” means to make holy or to make more Christ like. Husbands, if you are to be the man of your wife’s dreams, you need to sanctify her. By that I mean, you protect her from the dust and the filth of this world. Men, if you really love your wives, you will do everything in your power to maintain her holiness, her virtue, and her purity, everyday that you live. You’ll never put her in a situation where you would cause her to get angry, because that’s a sin. You will never do anything to defile her. You won’t expose her to anything that will cause her to feel dirty or unclean.

Men, not only do you need a sacrificial love and a sanctifying love, but you also need to Honor her.
– 1 Peter 3:7 You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor . . .

Men, you need to honor your wives. You need to build them up. I am reminded of the story of the woman who was fishing for a compliment from her husband. She asked him, “Honey, do you love me because I’m astonishingly beautiful, extremely intelligent, or stunningly sensual?” Her husband answered, “Most of all I’m grateful for your vivid imagination.” That man didn’t do a very good job of honoring his wife, of building her up.

Winston Churchill did a much better job of honoring his wife at a formal banquet in London one night. At the banquet, the host asked each person attending to stand and answer the question, “If you could not be the person you are, who would you most like to be?” All eyes were on Winston Churchill, waiting to hear what he would say, as he was the last man in the hall to answer. Mr. Churchill stood, and pausing to take hold of his wife’s hand answered, “If I could not be who I am, then I would most like to be Lady Churchill’s second husband.”

Men, do you build up your wife when you are alone and when you are around other people? Do you point out her strong points, or do you emphasize the negative? Does your wife ever hear you telling other people what a great wife she is, or what a great mother she is, or what a caring person she is? When was the last time you told her you loved her? When was the last time you told her she was special? When was the last time you told her that you thanked God for bringing her into your life?

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing . . .
Proverbs says that He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Do you act like you’ve found a good thing and do you tell her you have? Men honor your wives.

Gentlemen, if you are to be the man of your wife’s dreams, love her like you love yourself, imperfections and all.

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Show me the money!

 

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The Man of Her Dreams (pt 5) – Money!

Gentlemen, becoming the man of your wife’s dreams means that you support her financially. I’m not talking about buying everything in the world she might want.
I’m not talking living in a palace, I’m talking about being able to support her where she doesn’t have to worry.
Now, that may mean that you have to give up a few of the toys or a few of the extras you might like. It might mean that you have to go to school and train for another job. It might mean that you’ll have to change jobs even though you are comfortable where you are. Let me tell you, financial security is important to a wife.

Now, do we go through periods where things are tight? Yes! Do we go through periods where the bills seem to never stop? Yes! But supporting your wife financially means that at least you provide your wife with the hope, that better days are on the way. Perhaps you’re waiting for a promotion, or your business is getting established, or you’re finishing school or you’re getting some past bills taken care of. Those things happen and they’re OK. But at least give your wife the hope that better days are on the way.

I remember when my wife and I got married, things were tight. I worked as an English Teacher, and I worked giving private English classes to Students who spoke other languages and wanted to make a better living. That’s fine. If you and your wife work through tight times at the beginning of your marriage, it can actually strengthen your marriage, but let her see that there’s better days on the way. Let her be encouraged by the fact that you’re working to get ahead and that she’s not going to have to worry about keeping a roof over her head for the rest of her life.

Men, you and I can live hand to mouth OK for a while, but we need to do our best to take care of our wives financially. And I’m not talking about working 60 & 70 hours a week all the time. That just leads to other problems at home. I’m talking about adjusting your job, or your spending habits, or standard of living, so that financial pressures can eventually be taken off of your wife.© 2016 Manly Training "The face of George Washington stares at you".

If you are going to be the man of your wife’s dreams, if you are going to love her sacrificially, then support her financially.

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It takes sacrificial love to go to the park with the family at the end of the week, or to spend your Saturday teaching your son to ride his bike instead of hanging out with your friends. Oh, but as you do, look back over your shoulder and see if you can’t spot your wife watching from the window, smiling as you and your children play. If you want to be the man of your wife’s dreams, you need to make a family commitment.

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Be Honest with me!

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The Man of Her Dreams (pt 4)

We have learned that Sacrificial love requires affection, it requires communication, and today we will meditate on the fact that it requires Honesty & openness.
– Proverbs 12:19 – Truthful lips will be established forever, But a lying tongue is only for a moment.If there is ever a place in this world where there should be honesty and openness, it is in the home, in the marriage. Men, you need to be honest and open with your wives.

Jesus told the disciples He was leaving. He told them what He would be doing while He was gone. And He told them that He would be back. Gentlemen, you need to do the same with your wives. Let them know where you are going. Let them know what you are doing and where you can be reached. Don’t leave them wondering and worrying. Truthful lips will be established forever.
Don’t be sneaking around, going places and doing things your wife wouldn’t approve of. Don’t leave them wondering where you are and what you’re doing. Be open and honest with them about your struggles, about your finances. Keep everything above the table.

Most of us want an honest relationship with our spouse. But most women have a need for honesty and openness — it gives them a sense of security and helps them become emotionally bonded to the one who meets that need.

Those women with a need for honesty and openness want accurate information about their husbands’ thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities and plans for the future. If their husband does not provide honest and open communication, trust is undermined and the feelings of security can eventually be destroyed. They cannot trust the signals that are being sent and feel they have no foundation on which to build a solid relationship. Instead of adjusting, they feel off balance; instead of growing together, they feel as if they are growing apart.

Honesty and openness helps build compatibility in marriage. When you and your wife openly reveal the facts of your past, your present activities, and your plans for the future, you are able to make intelligent decisions that take each other’s feelings into account. And that’s how you create compatibility — by making decisions that work well for both of you simultaneously.

 

But aside from the practical considerations of honesty and openness, those women with this need feel happy and fulfilled when their husband reveal their most private thoughts to them, and feel very frustrated when they are hidden. That reaction is evidence of an emotional need, and if that is the way your wife feels, include honesty and openness as one of her most important emotional needs.
Sacrificial love requires honesty and openness, and if you are to be the man of your wife’s dreams, she must have it as well. Next week we discuss the fact that sacrificial love includes financial support.

This is part 4 of this series. I have received numerous emails and tweets about this series, so I pray it will continue to bless you. If you missed the first three parts, here are the links so you can catch up.

Part 1 – The Man of Her Dreams – Just Do It! 

The Man of Her Dreams – Show Affection (pt 2)

The Man of Her Dreams (pt 3)- Let’s Talk About it! 

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