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Perfect love … How we adopted three boys!


“As soon as we saw the boys, we knew they would be part of our family. FOREVER!”

We adopted our three children through BCFS Health and Human Services, the youngest of which just turned four in August.

After extensive research and prayer about international, local and national adoption agencies, we decided to trust BCFS HHS to build our family through adoption. Fives years ago, BCFS HHS called us to pick up our first child from the hospital. Our second child, came home just three weeks later when we were still going through the seleepless nights of being brand new parents of a newborn. And just a year later, baby boy number three joined the family, he was the fraternal brother of our oldest adopted child.
For many families considering fostering or adoption, the biggest issue they face is fear, But God says, Perfect love drives out fear… (1 John 4:18) and Greater love has no one than this, to lay down one’s life… (John 15:13). As a parent you’re basically laying down your life to parent a child. That’s perfect love so you have nothing to fear.

This is our story, I hope it helps someone.

Finding OUR Way
It took us a while to decide to adopt. We looked into adopting a child from China, Russia, and other places. But it was too expensive,

 

and some agencies require both the Mom and Dad to make multiple trips overseas as part of the adoption process. We thought, there has to be plenty of children in the US we could adopt, so we started looking at local and national adoption agencies. A lot of them turned out to be just as expensive as international agencies. One day my wife heard a commercial on a Christian radio station and there was an interview segment where they were talking about how families who wanted to adopt used BCFS HHS’ foster-to-adopt program. We said, why don’t we look into that? So we went to the orientation meeting, and decided that was how we were going to do it. It was very scary at first. The biggest fear we had was that we would fall in love with children and not be able to adopt them. Since we really wanted a family, we knew that would have been devastating to us, so we were quite scared about the whole process. But BCFS HHS made it really easy. We kid around that after the very first class we took we almost didn’t go back, because it was the SAMA (Satori Alternatives to Managing Aggression) class. It took us about a year to get certified because of my job at that time. When we finally did, they started calling us to foster children. Our first experience was with fostering which gave us a better understanding of what we were looking for in the process.

 

OUR First Child Comes Home
One day, Miranda from BCFS HHS called me saying that she knew we wanted a baby, and that there was a baby at the hospital. She asked if we wanted to submit our home and I told her yes. A few minutes later she called back and told me that they’d chosen our home for this wonderful foster-to-adopt baby! When we picked him up from the hospital, I knew right then and there our lives would be changed forever. I felt a very strong presence from God when we picked him up. He had another name at that time. As soon as I picked up that tiny baby and held him in my arms I heard God’s very subtle voice in my mind telling me what his new name would be. I knew we could conquer these giants – yeah they’re big, but we can conquer them! This baby boy was born 9 weeks premature and some of his health issues made it a challenge to get any sleep at all. We had never had a baby in our lives before, so we had to figure this whole thing out.

 

…And Then The Second

Three weeks later, Miranda from BCFS HHS called me again and said, “Mr. Quintana we have a 3-year-old child and he’d be perfect for your house”. I said, “I don’t know if we can bring another child in here, we haven’t slept in three weeks”! Miranda told me that this child was very mellow, that he was easy going and a very nice child. We said yes and the very same day we got him. Miranda is a good matchmaker; he did fit in very well. When he came home, I gave him a hug and I knew then and there he’d be here forever. I gave him a second name, Levy, which means “attached” because God had attached him to us.

 

…And Finally the Third!
After we’d officially adopted both boys by March 2012 we thought we were done, this is it, we’re good. Suddenly we got a call, letting us know that our oldest had a biological brother that had just been born. He was still in the hospital and they were going to release him. How can you say no to that? After all they are brothers! We said absolutely, bring him over.
The Power of Prayer
One of the biggest challenges we faced was knowing how to pray during the adoption process. Should you pray for parental rights to get terminated? We knew we had to pray that God’s will be done, if God wanted these children to be together, they would be. That’s how we approached it. It’s hard to say when it all sunk in, but now that it has been made official with the adoptions, I feel relief – that feeling that says ‘OK it’s over,’ they’re part of our family now. That part of the journey is over and now we can really focus on bringing them up.
Mrs. Quintana, the Heroin
The hero in this story is my wife. She quit her job to be a stay-at-home-mom, and having five people on one income is quite a task. She could be working, taking the kids to daycare like most of America, but these kids really need family in their formative years. She’s their anchor. I go to work and don’t have to worry that the kids are safe all day long. My wife would like to encourage all those families who are considering the possibility of fostering a child or adopting one or more. She says, “You need to give yourself the opportunity to give it a try. Take some time to meet with other families, like ours, who have been down that road and done it. It brings hope to one’s heart to see others who have already gone through the process and have made a forever family out of otherwise broken lives. I know it helped me to meet others when we were starting out.”
Work/Family Balance
There is no way my wife and I could do what we are doing if it hadn’t been for the people at BCFS Health and Human Services, and my current employer. After our family started to grow, God prospered me with a better job. Now I’m an Area Manager at Bush’s Chicken. The fact that Mr. Tony Cain (my new boss) believed in me and gave me an opportunity to work for him has made all the difference in my family. It has allowed me to have the time to do everything we needed to do to prepare for the adoption, like classes, training, all the legal mumbo-jumbo, court, visits, doctor’s appointments, you name it! His friendship is invaluable and I will be eternally grateful to him.

 

Spreading a Message of Hope
I’m a big advocate of fostering and fostering to adopt. There were over 500 children removed from their homes in Bexar County alone last year. All these children find themselves in the system somehow, most are in shelters or in foster homes and a lot of them will never get adopted and will age out. It’s sad that it happens, but it’s the reality. I’ve felt like I have to talk to as many people as I can about getting involved; they don’t have to adopt, they can foster, or be a CASA worker, which is a big help to the case workers. Or get involved in many other ways like visiting the children at the shelters or taking time to put together some gifts for families with foster children, or getting certified as a babysitter for foster parents.
What’s Next?
We’re hoping to go to Mexico City very soon. We are saving our pennies to get passports for the kids and spending money for the trip. This will be the first time the kids get to go to Mexico and experience a whole different culture and practice their Spanish which we have been teaching them since the day they arrived. This will also be the first time our families actually meet our three boys. How exciting!
And…..I think we’re going to adopt another child in the future. My wife wants a baby girl; she says there’s too much testosterone in the house!

If you enjoyed this post, I’d be very grateful if you’d help it spread by emailing it to a friend, or sharing it on Twitter or Facebook. Thank you!
—ejq3, Get to know us and help spread the word.

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